How anguish led to the happiness forever of Jenna Dewan

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If I had to press the subject, Jenna Dewan He would probably admit that 2018 was not his favorite year.

In early April, she and Channing Tatum He had finally become nervous to announce a truth that they had accepted long before: their envied and worshiped marriage was simply not working. "Absolutely nothing has changed about how much we love each other, but love is a beautiful adventure that is taking us on different paths for now," they shared in social media statements. "There are no secrets or salacious events at the root of our decision: only two best friends realize that it is time to take a space and help each other live the happiest and fullest life possible."

While the news was equally crushing and disconcerting for fans, weren't they one of Hollywood's most popular couples? Didn't they simply radiate chemistry? The couple had already taken the time to think at the end of their marriage of almost nine years.

"They have separated and have had a few months to get used to this in private. Both are doing well because it has taken a long time to arrive," a source told E! News at the time of the couple, currently concluding the final details of their divorce. "They had been trying for a long time to see if they could make it work. During the last year it became clear that they wanted different things and were no longer on the same path."

Still, one had to wonder how they were going to leave on their own. Having met at the age of 25 on the set of the 2006 good girl dancer campy meets the bad boy break dance rom com Increase, the couple had spent most of their adult lives together, getting married on July 11, 2009 in the vineyards of Church Estates in Malibu and welcoming their daughter Everly Tatum Not exactly four years later.

For some, being suddenly single for the first time in more than a decade may seem daunting, the idea of ​​doing it alone, if not paralyzing, at least a considerable challenge.

Dewan has prospered. As she makes clear in her recently published book Gracefully You: Finding Beauty and Balance in the Everyday, was not the easiest obstacle to climb. "At the beginning of my separation," he writes, "it felt like I was in a dark closet, desperately trying to find the light or the exit." But now, while the triple threat celebrates his 39th birthday today, he can remember all that as the fight he had to endure to reach his future: balancing the acting concerts, his new role as Fox presenter Flirty dance, several projects under development with his producer Everheart and the family he is building with his boyfriend of more than a year, Tony's winning actor Steve Kazee.

"Becoming a mother is simply the best and most incredible thing that has happened to me," he wrote in an Instagram revelation in September. "@stevekazee, you are a gift from above and could not be more excited to expand our family together …!

So what if I had to stumble a little in act two to reach her happily ever after?

"(The divorce) was never on my dream list, but unfortunately, here I am, learning and growing through one," he shared in With grace you. "At the beginning I turned to the typical remedies. I drank a lot of wine with friends. I had many moments of deep, painful and great cries. And both were very necessary to arrive at the next hour, throughout the day, to another week."

There were also moments of positivity, but they were often eliminated by a quick turn on the Internet. "I was in shock. One week I was doing very well and the next one they hit me with a new set of emotions," he explained. "The rumor factory was producing history after history. There were many times that I hid under the covers, wondering what would happen next. The pain hit me like an avalanche that collapsed. I was completely overwhelmed by fear and sadness. It took me many moments of sitting, just with my pain to force me to surrender to my roller coaster of a situation. "

However, in May of last year, she was declaring "a new dawn,quot; in her life while talking with Harper's bazaar, the writer points out in the profile how positive Dewan looked about this transition period. "There is a joy and there is a vulnerability to it," said the actress. "But I have high hopes of what the new chapter of my life will be."

Almost a year and a half later, it is working quite well, the normally annoying vegetarian surrenders to her pregnancy cravings for Cheetos and 7-Eleven Slurpees and lets her excited 6 year old girl show her belly to whoever they are. "Wherever we go, she lifts my shirt, so wherever we go she will say, & # 39; There's a baby in this belly! & # 39;", He revealed in The Ellen DeGeneres show. "And then he says: & # 39; Don't you want to touch him? & # 39; … She is very proud."

As for his romance with Kazee, insider information reveals that they are "crazy for each other and have a great relationship. It's easy and comfortable."

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Her recovery comes after months of a search for souls in the decidedly new world, including a meditative holographic breathing technique that she attributes to opening it to new possibilities.

A self-styled "spiritual nut,quot; and one of the first to adopt the crystals, joined her closest brides to form a circle of goddesses. Curled up together, "they talk about what we're going through," he shared with Harper's bazaar, then participate in a group meditation conducted by shamans using the crystals and sound bowls always present. "I am aware of how strange it sounds," he admitted. "It's the whole hippie experience of Los Angeles."

File it below what you must do to overcome a painful divorce. Dewan noted that her group of friends helped her find the courage "to face the unknown." The rationale for their meetings, he said, "is for women to come together and support each other, connect and join." The longer it has existed in this world and in the great Hollywood sphere, its first role will come in 2002 Hot girl– "Sounds cliche," he said, "but it is more important to have a really solid group of girls who are there for me, to catch me."

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Who is that "me,quot; (dancer, presenter, producer, actress, entrepreneur, mom), well, Dewan is having fun discovering that.

"I did a lot of healing work from the inside out, getting more in touch with my feminine power," he said. Women's health Last July "She was always & # 39; I'm a dancer & # 39; or & # 39; I'm married & # 39; or & # 39; I'm an actress & # 39;. In recent years, she tried to learn about me."

It is difficult to imagine that his current professional career is not at least tangentially connected with his discoveries, although he insists that his marriage had no effect on his professional life. "The movements I am making are not completely related to my marriage or separation, interestingly. I was always very happy to be a wife," Dewan said. Harper & # 39; s, but she faced dealing with life's most important questions, such as "Who are you? What do you want to give the world? What excites you?" Those feelings began to bubble for me, naturally … so I really wanted to expand my life and mine. And that was my trip, nobody else's. "

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As he moves along a new path, he still accepts Tatum as a co-pilot when it comes to Everly. The couple meant it when they said they would always be "loving and dedicated parents,quot; for their daughter, a free and voluntary spirit that Dewan already predicts great things for: "If she is not running her own business or ruling the world, I have failed as a mother. "

Although Tatum moved from his shared home in Beverly Hills, he had every intention of continuing to visit, possibly giving Everly another chance to create a masterpiece on his face.

"They will do all kinds of family things together," a source insisted. "They want to keep their routine the same and will go to the farmers market on weekends and go out with friends," the source said. "Nothing is going to change in her life and she has two parents who will be very involved in everything she does."

Although they are still solving some custody issues in their newly finalized divorce, they have established themselves in a different type of society that stands firm in those plans. "She and Channing are co-raising," the source tells E! Dewan news, "and always puts Everly's needs first."

Its atmosphere includes "a lot of love," he said. Harper's bazaar. "We're getting used to it. We're together in a very positive energy, trying to be the best parents for Everly."

His conscious decoupling game is so close that the Supergirl Alum didn't seem at all disturbed when it was learned in October that Tatum had been courting another talented brunette: the British pop singer Jessie J.

However, as he admits now, it was not exactly an exceptional moment. Although she was already exploring things with Kazee, "There I was, on a plane, alone, discovering her new relationship," he wrote. "I felt surprised. Choosing grace when I learned everything about my personal situation along with the rest of the world was really difficult."

Still, he resisted the urge to lash out or post deep thoughts on Instagram and kept all the most honest tweets he wrote saved in drafts. "Instead of reacting as I wanted … I asked myself this: how do I choose grace right now?" she shared "If I hadn't been practicing this way of life beforehand, I definitely wouldn't have handled this news with much grace."

Instead, he showed no trace of meanness, even when the most superficial fans pointed out the physical resemblance of the ladies and offered their thoughts on who was or was not up to tobacco. Dragging the new loved one can be an honest tradition enjoyed by exes everywhere, but Dewan was not playing.

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She offered a virtual maximum of five when the 31-year-old Grammy-nominated singer went to Instagram to share her thoughts on "a story I've seen that is rewritten over and over again in recent weeks that talks about being directly compared to me. with another beautiful woman regarding our appearance and the people who choose who they think is prettier. "

The musician continued: "Choose who is prettier and then say why it is a good activity for women to participate? No." Dewan hastened to show that they were on the same side of this particularly offensive battle, posting on his own Instagram page, "Amen Jessie! Yes! Women for women all the way. No need for negativity. Let's live in a world where we support each other and get up. "

Besides, she couldn't get mad at her ex-husband's new girl when she had to attend to her own steaming romance. The truth came out at Mike MeldmanCasamigos' Halloween party last year when Dewan was seen participating in a kissing session with a handsome mysterious man. It turns out that she had been seeing the flashy suitor …Shameless and Nashville alum Kazee, who earned a Tony and a Grammy for his work on the Broadway musical Once-For some months.

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"It was presented by mutual friends," a source explained to E! News, "and they liked each other immediately."

In the 44-year-old Kentucky-born dog lover (a "proud feminist,quot; declared) she found someone who excited her at the prospect of returning to the dating scene. "When I was ready, I started dating someone amazing," he wrote in his book. "It was a cosmic great thing where we surrounded ourselves after a moment of instant recognition years ago."

With the news, suddenly, the couple and their sweet displays of affection were everywhere: posing with friends at the Haunted Hayride attraction in Los Angeles, walking hand in hand through Palm Springs one day, stopping to kiss in front of a Mexican Restaurant in the desert tourist town next door and taking a kiss to go with your pressed Juicery drinks while in Beverly Hills. They also paid a visit to WWE Monday Night Raw ("My boyfriend is a big wrestling fan and he got me a lot into that," he explained in The Ellen DeGeneres show) and launched into an Instagram official.

Maybe this is what he predicted when he spoke with Women's health for its July 2018 edition, reflecting on what life would be like Jenna Dewan, not Tatum anymore.

"It has been a journey and it has been a transformation of myself, my needs and desires as a woman," he shared. "I think everyone wants to hold on to what is in front of them, but when you open your mind and say: & # 39; I want the best for me and for my daughter & # 39 ;, you have to agree with what it seems. I feel "I've been in a wave of growth. It looks different; it's a new normal and I really think we'll get used to it."

It took time to adapt to the protests of the fans who declared that the end of their romance meant the end of all love, believing that if these two incredibly attractive people could not achieve it, what hope did the rest of us have?

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But they finally left with her, he told the magazine. "It is always challenging to go through a great change and for everyone to have an opinion about it. It's okay for a relationship to change to a new way that is really better for both people involved, and I think maybe that's what surprised everyone. a lot, which can be a positive thing. Ultimately, that is what happened with us. "

Because now Dewan spends much of his time grateful for his trip. (That is, when he is not publishing photos that coincide impossibly adorable with his man or talks about his entire existence). "He's a kind and kind-hearted guy and Jenna feels so lucky to have found him," a source tells E. News of his life with Kazee. "She feels very safe and secure with him. He makes her feel like the most important thing in the world and there is never any doubt."

Hearing Dewan say it, she was safe, completely sure, from the moment he saw Kazee. "I wasn't looking for him," he said. People Recently. "But it took me completely a storm. It happened when I least expected it … It was an instant connection when we met. Suddenly. In my eyes, it was really, completely meant to be."

(Originally published on October 22, 2019 at 3 a.m.PT)